A strong mentoring relationship can be one of the most valuable experiences in your legal career. While mentors play an important role in offering guidance, advice and perspective, mentees are equally responsible for shaping the success of the relationship. This guide provides practical tips and discussion ideas to help mentees make the most of mentoring opportunities whether in a formal program or an informal professional relationship.

What Makes a Good Mentee

1. Be Proactive, Not Passive. Take initiative to schedule meetings, suggest discussion topics, and follow up on advice or goals. Your mentor is a resource but the energy and direction should come from you.
2. Come Prepared. Before each meeting, think through what you want to talk about: current challenges, questions or updates. Respect your mentor’s time by being intentional.
3. Be Open and Honest. Share your successes and struggles. Mentors can only offer meaningful guidance if they understand where you are in your professional journey.
4. Follow Through. If your mentor recommends an article, introduces you to someone, or suggests a next step, follow up promptly. Demonstrating reliability builds credibility and shows respect.
5. Respect Boundaries. Recognize that your mentor is also balancing their own workload. Be professional in communication, punctual for meetings and mindful of time.
6. Welcome Feedback Gracefully. Constructive criticism is a gift. Listen carefully, ask clarifying questions and use it as an opportunity to grow.
7. Share Your Wins. Mentors appreciate hearing about your progress. Let them know when their advice or support has made a difference. It strengthens the relationship and builds mutual motivation.

Tips for Maximizing Your Mentoring Relationship

• Set clear goals early. Discuss what you hope to gain (e.g., career direction, networking, work/life balance strategies or developing professional skills.)
• Establish a meeting rhythm. Monthly or bi-monthly meetings are often ideal. Use TBA organized events as a way to meet easily. Keep communication open between sessions.
• Be flexible. Your mentor’s time may be limited; show grace when meetings need to be rescheduled.
• Express gratitude. A simple thank-you note or message goes a long way in maintaining goodwill.

Discussion Topics for Mentees and Mentors

Here are conversation ideas for the first meeting to help mentees engage meaningfully and drive productive discussions:

• How did you decide which area of law to practice?
• What do you wish you’d known as a new lawyer?
• What’s your approach to networking and professional reputation?
• What habits or routines contribute most to your success?
• How can I set myself apart as a new lawyer or law student?

Provided by TBA Mentoring Committee, November 2025